Windows in My life

Thursday, February 24, 2011

#thought #thursday




How do you save for the future? This has been a dilemma for me up until my mom passed away. Yes I wasn't too happy about what happened and suffered for many months about the death of my mother.

However she did provide me with a means to pay off debt that I had to pay off. I also paid for my wedding (at least half of it) and sock some away for the future. A down payment for a house. A rainy day fund for when I was kicked out needed the money for a place to live until I could figure things out. I used some of it recently for a down payment for a car. I need to repay that back.

Finally me and my husband bought our first home. We used my inheritance from my grand father, like my mother did when my great grand dad passed, to put the down payment on it and used some of the money that was left in the "house" fund towards it.

Now I want to save it for the future and put money back into it so that my daughter and any future little one would have a little savings for school or an around the world vacation when they reach 18 yrs old. It's one or the other we can't afford both just yet... (come on lotto!)

I guess my question is that how do people sock money away and still try and live life with out killing their spouse?

AVPH

Monday, February 21, 2011

#Manic Monday

So tonight me and hubby had a fight about owing his mom and aunt money they put in for us to buy the new home. Hubby an I were under the impression that it was going to be returned to us sometime in the next few weeks. Turns out it wasn't. So my hubby is stressing out. I had a previous talk with his mom and she stated that when we get some extra cash then it would be ok to pay them back I said that when we get the tax return for 2010 we would pay them back ASAP. I guess hubby wasn't told about the update and he wanted to use what was in savings. I said no because that was Bella's, also the rainy day fund in case of desperate emergencies. I felt that this was not a time to use it. And I told him no. He blew up at me and told me all sorts of things that I felt that I was getting attacked and that he was not listening to me. So I walked out of the car (we were parked at the time) and preceded to walk home. He came after me yelling. Saying that I didn't love him because I didn't say it back. I didn't say it back because I didn't feel like this was about love it was about money. In my view money and love do not mix. We finally resolved the issue but it left a bad taste in my mouth because it felt that if it was a loan from my dad it would be my issue and not his problem. I also felt that h

Monday, November 1, 2010

#Manic Monday - My New House

I think the best way to start is that I don't have a house (working on getting one though). I doubt it will be in the best condition, a real fixer-upper. However, I have dreamed about getting one for so long. Here is a wish list of what I would like (under $400,000.00):

1. at most 5 bedrooms (two can be used for office or a playroom/office)
2. at most 5.5 bathrooms. (half bath for the living space)
3. at least one acer of land that the house sits on. 
4. Woods for a fence (all natural)
5. a master suite that has no carpet or cat box in it
6. SPACE!

Even though I probably would only get one third of everything thing that I wish for, I still would like the chance to have it all. I do know that at the moment, apartment life is cramping our style and would like not to be paying any one's rent besides my own 

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Being depressed

I am sorry for the few who read this blog that I have been a ghost. I have been in kind of a slump for a few weeks. It starts with a day; then two and now its coming more and more frequent.

I guess because of the slow weaning of my daughter. This past month I got AF again. I should be happy. Getting rid of the junk in side to make new stuff for a new life. This is what I wanted right?

The past few weeks, I felt that I have a been slipping into the could have, would have, should haves. I should be pregnant, should have a second room for Bella. Could have bought a house in a new state and not waiting for my husband to be ready to quit his job and start a new. Could be in a different place with different people. I guess you can move, but you take yourself with you and your troubles. I would have felt differently if I didn't lose the only thing I had to comfort myself for 20+ yrs. I know I'm outing myself as one of those people, but it has helped me when I was stressed, helped me cope with loss and feelings of depression. And now I think of it being in a trash heap some where and I lose 10-15 minutes of sleep each and every night.

Call me a fool, call me what you will but I am in the mist of being in a depression that might last a few more months with or with out meds.

Friday, August 13, 2010

#Foodie Friday ~ Big Mouth Burger

-Big Mouth Burger is not paying for this review-
Now that I got a little bit of discloser here is the review.

In the upper Mission district in San Francisco lets say 24th St and Valencia, a few years back, a small restaurant opened that I didn't think much of because of the name Big Mouth Burger. It was next to a falafel shop and I thought the two were connected so I really didn't pay much attention. It wasn't until I was really hungry and was sick and tired of the Chinese food and doughnuts (yes this does exist) on 24th St and Mission, that I decided to take a chance and eat there. 

The worst thing I could get was a bad tummy-ache and not go there any more. What I entered was a relationship that lasted to this very day with my whole family.


The place is a small hole in the wall, yes, there aren't that many tables and there is a small window bar that uses the last space to the utmost without feeling to packed in. Most regulars know to get the food to go because the tables are a fair wait and the medium trays that they serve the food on takes up any elbow room on the tables. But well worth it on some occasions. Large groups can take up more than 2-3 tables, so take it from this regular, take it to go and sit out in the sun!


The Food:

Unlike its name the Big Mouth Burger isn't too big. They give you a knife if you want to cut in half and save it for later. The choices are very custom made and they have a wide selection. Though the chalk board with the selections looks small, you can customize the burger any way for at most $2 dollars more per item. The ice-cream is a local favorite - Mitchell's - which is a San Francisco original, like this shop. Besides the standard thick cut fries; the coleslaw, Baked Beans (no pork added for flavor) are made at the store and they have now added the Sweet Potato fries to the menu for $1 add to the meal!

They have other items on the menu like a Salmon Burger, Garden Burger, Turkey Burger, Cheese Steaks and Salads.

The restaurant has a kids menu that is also customizable for any picky eater and they do just sides of something, which came in handy when we were first introducing solids to Bella! Avocado $.95 and a good portion too!

The People:

The people that work there are very friendly and they know a regulars face. The owner especially goes out of his way to make you feel like you are at his house and not at a McDonalds. When I started going there regularly he made sure that a table was cleaned if one is available and if he wasn't busy clean it himself!

Alas, I moved away and only got to go to Big Mouth when I was in the City, until late last year when to my delight and the grumble in my tummy, a Big Mouth opened in the shopping complex near my work! Turns out the owner lives near and decided to open a Big Mouth right in his neighborhood!

Since then me, my husband and Bella have eaten there at least once or twice a week. Each time we find something new to eat and a sports game on the tv!



Here is the San Francisco Local. Two short blocks from the 24th St and Mission BART Station.

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Here is the one near my near my work.

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Wednesday, August 11, 2010

#Wordless Wednesday ~ a start

My cats Puma (grey) Bindi (black)




My Hubby



My Bella




These are the people in my world.

Next week the start of a series I call ode to Blueberries!