Thursday, February 24, 2011
How do you save for the future? This has been a dilemma for me up until my mom passed away. Yes I wasn't too happy about what happened and suffered for many months about the death of my mother.
However she did provide me with a means to pay off debt that I had to pay off. I also paid for my wedding (at least half of it) and sock some away for the future. A down payment for a house. A rainy day fund for when I was kicked out needed the money for a place to live until I could figure things out. I used some of it recently for a down payment for a car. I need to repay that back.
Finally me and my husband bought our first home. We used my inheritance from my grand father, like my mother did when my great grand dad passed, to put the down payment on it and used some of the money that was left in the "house" fund towards it.
Now I want to save it for the future and put money back into it so that my daughter and any future little one would have a little savings for school or an around the world vacation when they reach 18 yrs old. It's one or the other we can't afford both just yet... (come on lotto!)
I guess my question is that how do people sock money away and still try and live life with out killing their spouse?
Monday, February 21, 2011
So tonight me and hubby had a fight about owing his mom and aunt money they put in for us to buy the new home. Hubby an I were under the impression that it was going to be returned to us sometime in the next few weeks. Turns out it wasn't. So my hubby is stressing out. I had a previous talk with his mom and she stated that when we get some extra cash then it would be ok to pay them back I said that when we get the tax return for 2010 we would pay them back ASAP. I guess hubby wasn't told about the update and he wanted to use what was in savings. I said no because that was Bella's, also the rainy day fund in case of desperate emergencies. I felt that this was not a time to use it. And I told him no. He blew up at me and told me all sorts of things that I felt that I was getting attacked and that he was not listening to me. So I walked out of the car (we were parked at the time) and preceded to walk home. He came after me yelling. Saying that I didn't love him because I didn't say it back. I didn't say it back because I didn't feel like this was about love it was about money. In my view money and love do not mix. We finally resolved the issue but it left a bad taste in my mouth because it felt that if it was a loan from my dad it would be my issue and not his problem. I also felt that h